Thursday, June 11, 2009

Chastity Bono Undergoing Gender Transition

Chastity Bono, the daughter of Cher and the late Sonny Bono, will undergo gender transition to become a man, according to his publicist. “Chaz,” as Chastity now prefers to be known, and is proud of his decision. He hopes his choice to transition will open the hearts and minds of the public on transgender issues, just as his coming out as a lesbian did 20 years ago. Chaz Bono, is an LGBT civil rights advocate, journalist, author and musician, and began the process of changing his gender earlier this year, following his 40th birthday. GLAAD and the Empowering Spirits Foundation, national LGBT organizations, were quick to offer praise and support for Bono's gender transformation announcement.


Writer and activist

Bono worked as a writer at large for The Advocate, a national gay and lesbian magazine.

Bono became a spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign, promoting National Coming Out Day, campaigning for the reelection of Bill Clinton for US President and campaigning against the Defense of Marriage Act.

Bono served as Entertainment Media Director for the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation.


Books

Bono has written two books.

Family Outing : A Guide to the Coming Out Process for Gays, Lesbians, and Their Families tells the story of his own coming out, and also the stories of other gay and lesbian people.

The End of Innocence is a memoir which discusses his outing, music career, and partner Joan's death from non-Hodgkin's lymphoma.



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Sunday, June 7, 2009

Our Legacy as a Transgender Person

I just finished watching "Running the Sahara" in TV this afternoon, and I have to say I am really inspired. As a transgender people we are tackling an amazing feat in transitioning into a gender that matches the person we are inside. We deal with all the psychological issues, hormonal changes, surgery, descrimination, family and whatever else society has to throw at us. We do all of this so that our bodies will match the person we are inside.

The thought that kept comming to my mind throughout the movie was, what am I going to be remembered for other than my gender transition? What will my legacy be? What will my contrabution to society be. Yes, I fight for transgender rights, so the generations to come don't have to go through what my generation went through. But, what is my legacy outside of transgenderism and transgender issues?

I am beginning to feel that we need to be thinking about a higher legacy. Don't let transgenderism be our legacy, but rather be just a stepping stone to something even bigger. For me, being the custodial parent of 2 children with disabilities, I want to use my advocacy skills to fight for kids with disabilites. Not that I will part from my transgender activism, but take it to a higher plain to include more than just transgender issues.

I feel we all need to spend some time thinking, what can we contribute to the larger society? As we take our eyes off ourselves, and reach out to others outside the transgender community, I believe more respect will come to us as a transgender person, and the transgender community at large.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Coming Out and Changing Identities

Last week I started the process of doing a common law name change. I have to say I have been excited and yet nervous at the same time. I find myself explaining my gender identity to people I have known and done business with for many years. So far this has been a very positive experience for me and perhaps the most exciting and fulfilling time of my life.

So far everyone has been respectful of my transition. Several have congratulated me on my decision to be me. My insurance agent said "you lived the first half of your life in hell, now it is time you live your life as the person you were meant to be, congratulations." I just can't get over the overwhelming support people are showing me, whether they be a perfect stranger or someone whom has known me for many years.

I think looking back, I feel like I was my own worst enemy. I was SO afraid many were going to reject me for making the choice I made. In reality, this was not a choice at all, I could no longer go on living the lie. Even though I had a male body, I KNEW I was a female inside. For so many years I let fear rule the coarse of my life. Sometimes I ask myself, Is it my fear, or is it that society is finally coming around to accepting us for who we are? Maybe a little of both?

The thing I am realizing most right now, is coming out is truly a liberating experience. I am now experiencing a true peace like I have never experienced before in my life. My biggest regret is that I didn't do this many years ago. I feel like I am now being rewarded for waiting, as long as I did, I have full sole custody of my 2 boys and they are fully accepting of my transition. What more could a person ask for.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

New York Equality and Justice Day

April 28, 2009, New York State had its Equality and Justice Day at the State Capitol in Albany, NY. I was out there lobbying for Dignity for All Students ACT, Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA), and marriage equality. I was really wowed by the pure raw energy through out the day, especially during Governor David Patterson’s morning speech, and at the rally. The other thing that really caught my attention was when we were walking to the legislative office building and hearing the roar of the supporters from other states, especially Vermont, thank you Vermont!

I met with my legislators (both of whom happen to be republican), and the big message I received from both was that they need to hear from their constituents. When I asked the Chief of Staff of my Assemblyman why my assemblyman voted against the Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA), he replied "we need to hear from our constituents, and we vote on what the majority of out constituents want from us". My senator also told us that he votes based on his constituency and moral values.

I have been involved in a lot of activism leading up to the New York Equality & Justice Day in my community. I find that after all the media attention we have received this last year, people are eager to learn about transgender and the transgender community. The transgender literature was flying off the tables. People are hungry to know more about us, they want to hear our stories, and they want to hear it from the transgender people themselves.

Since I have been "out" in my conservative little community, the people have been just wonderful to me and my children. Sure I have dealt with small pockets of discrimination, but I find this disappears with education and time. My children’s school district has been wonderful to me, they allowed be to do a common-law name change on my children’s school records, refer to my using proper pronouns. I raise a child with disabilities and all the disability organizations we deal with have been very supportive.

You may ask, "Why do we need Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA) and Dignity for All Students Act? The reason is simple, we still have serious pockets of hate and violence, transgender people are still loosing their jobs due to discrimination, transgender people are still being evicted from our homes, being denied necessary healthcare, etc. These bills will give us the tools we desperately need to continue the fight towards winning full equality.

You can make a difference, even if you can't attend the events. Hand written letters and phone calls carry the most weight. Most legislators read their mail, but email is easily deleted. Talk about your experiences, good and bad. People want to learn about us.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Anti-Trans Radio Broadcast About Angie Zapata

KNUS weekend host Trevor Carey asserted that a transgender woman murdered in Greeley had committed "fraud" in presenting herself as a woman and agreed with a caller that it was grounds for physical violence against her. Carey also stated that the victim, Angie Zapata, had "faked" the suspect into having "some sexual relations," and claimed that "rage" regarding "the fact that [Zapata] was living as a woman" had "so much to do with the murder."

To read the entire item and check out the audio clip, go to: http://colorado.mediamatters.org/items/200903160001

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

New York State Assembly Passes Bill Banning Transgender Discrimination

April 21, 2009 We thank the New York State Assembly for voting by a wide margin today to amend the state’s human rights law to include anti-discrimination protections based upon gender identity and expression. The Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA, A.5710) provides crucial civil rights protections for transgender New Yorkers by banning discrimination in housing, employment, credit, public accommodations, and other areas of everyday life.

Read the statement released by the Empire State Pride Agenda:

http://www.prideagenda.org/tabid/304/default.aspx?c=379

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Trouble with Amazon

You may have heard already that Amazon has recently begun removing ranks and search-ability of books that are considered to have "adult content." Here's what we know:

Authors and readers began to piece together the trends over the weekend -- largely via Twitter -- and realized that many of the books that have been labeled "adult" are ones that address gay/queer/lgbt issues. (Eerily, the exception to this seems to be anti-gay propaganda, like books on preventing homosexuality in your children.)

A writeup of what has happened so far; http://lysimachia.livejournal.com/52888.html#cutid1

Twitter is leading the discussion about Amazon's policies; http://search.twitter.com/search?q=%23amazonfail

There is a Facebook group recently started called AmazonFail which has details about the situation: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=70927484220

Petition against this policy: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/in-protest-at-amazons-new-adult-policy

More info can be found by putting the term "#amazonfail" in Google and/or Twitter.

The LGBT community is an respectable part to the booksellers market share and if we all boycott Amazon, perhaps Amazon will rethink the idea of censoring our books and classifying them as "adult".

A great alternative to Amazon is Barnes & Noble.

Thanks to all who have written about this and for showing your support for all writers and readers who want and deserve shame-free access to LGBT books.



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